Coping with Young People After Heartbreak And Love

Coping With My Girls

My beautiful girls, they each finish that part of my soul and heart that I was missing. I always knew that I wanted to be a mother and a wife. I wanted to be excellent at everything that had to do with being a homemaker. This stems from my mother, she was always so powerful in my eyes. She always made sure that my sibling and I were well taken care of. I’m not sure how I forgot to be strong for them at that moment. I was busy coping with my own struggles.

That is a deep regret I will forever take with me. One thing I can say is that my two eldest are the most understanding sets of soul. The support they have given me is just a emotion that no one on earth can replicate. How they are coping is another question. I am restless at night. Thinking about the way they are dealing with their own issues. I wonder how they are actively coping.

Heartbreak And Love

My girls are aware of how love looks and feels. As they have grown I have observed their unique ways of coping with both heartbreak and love. I did not expect to be so strong at this early stage of their tender life. They are still so innocent. I wish we can stay longer in the realm of innocence. Ultimately, things happen for a reason and coping with emotions with young children is hard. My daughters displayed an immediate distaste for men. A passionate hate for how are men so selfish.

Their immediate reaction was also fight or flight. They took to me instantly seeking answers as to what do we need to do? How am I coping? They wanted to know what is happening to their dad. Why did he say those awful things about how he felt towards their mom. Where does he get the never to disrupt their life? Why did he think that we would just be one big happy family after the fact. They are lost in limbo, not sure who to listen to when you have everyone trying to offer advice. They just want the validation of their mother.

Coping With Young Minds

My eldest is still having a hard time forgiving. I don’t for see it happening anytime soon. She looks for me for answers, as a mother I want to make sure I am doing the right thing. This whole traumatic event has me second guessing myself in everything. How do I shape their minds to be strong independent women. Guide them in the path of fearlessness and strong minded. Yet forgiving and capable of loving deeply to see that mistakes are made. Even if those mistakes carry a huge consequence.

I didn’t want my children to have to go to Therapy. It’s not an scary experience but it has helped me so much in my progress. Young women are so impressionable. Having them navigate the process of coping through a family affair was not on their to-do list. Showing them how to be strong when you keep wanting to fall is hard work. Have they seen me cry and breakdown? Absolutely, they have seen this woman at her worst. To see them love me so tenderly and unconditionally has been the highlight of it all.

Teaching Love After Heartbreak

Over the past year, I have been struggling. We have been struggling with coping with our new normal life. We have been triggered from various sources of our daily life. I have been practicing many ways to show them that forgiving is sometimes a part of moving on. Even though it is a struggle for me to find the answers to what I am seeking. How do we love after being heartbroken? How did our mothers find peace and love after?

I’ve learned that showing them is the best way to showcase and teach them how strong women are made. The resiliency we were born with that we keep hidden. Teaching them that love is still beautiful. Love is strong and forgiving and patient when you are capable of seeing. Seeing that we sometimes as humans make awful mistakes. Making those decisions are a ripple effect. But LOVE always will prevail if it is truly REAL LOVE.

Coping Young Hearts Understanding

It’s been a year since we have been digging our hearts out of the ground. A year of understanding how to cope with our family. We are understanding that we all hurt in different moments some things are easy and some are hard. We are learning to understand the progress of each individual in our home. He is learning to understand the depth of trauma. How long it takes for healing to start and what it even looks like.

My girls have been strong and understanding towards both of us. They love their parents and want them to be together. They want to cheer us on and see that maybe forgiving is possible. That seeing mom and dad are also humans and mistakes hurt people. People have a choice, a choice to do right and be a good person.

Thank you so much for joining me today on Kendra’s Journey to Wholeness. I hope this post has inspired you to perhaps create your own blog. Or if you have any thoughts or experience you’d like to share, feel free to leave a comment. And if you think you need help and talk to someone betterhelp.com was my resource. Remember healing is a process, and you deserve to take every step at your own pace. Until next time, take care of yourself! Thank you for taking the time to read. I’m grateful to have you as part of this community.