Triggered By Normal Life: Overcome Life’s Little Surprises

Triggered

Triggered by normal life, normal life experience sounds simple. I’d love to feel normal and not upset. Faced with so many unexpected twist and turns. I feel like sometimes life is out to get me. It’s hard to explain, but I think for those who read this can feel my pain. We don’t ask to be triggered by normal life experiences. We want to grow and take back our life.

When does that feeling go away? We as women just have to deal with it. Then what? Who came up with this awful solution? It doesn’t work for me, and I am trying to find out what will. You can go to therapy and feel great after and think “I can do this”. Then completely fail after the slightest feeling of trauma occurs. I guess with every success many failed attempts occur.

Triggered & Overcoming Life’s Surprises

When you are learning to overcome life’s little surprises it’s no easy task. This whole situation is no easy task. The whole thing is absolutely insane. I can be triggered by just knowing he is driving to work. Seems like a simple routine but not for us. That was when he would call her, or send those lovely emails. Those moments are engraved in my memory. While I take our children to school and tend to the cleaning. My days are no longer normal.

Anxiety sets in and festers in my mind like a worm in an apple. My emotions become stronger and that is when you start to think the worst. Triggered by normal life routines. I was recently triggered by him having his lunch outside his office. Again, seems simple enough. A moment in time where he made it his business to call and enjoy his face time with her. While he has no clue what I am up to or if I have eaten.

Trauma Weaved Into Normal Life

I always tell people how I don’t live a normal life. I don’t have a good day unless I am doing something brand new. And we all know that we can’t always do something new everyday. So the weaving of trauma occurs in simple places, Like going to the grocery store alone. Leaving him home alone to “work” or “taking his phone to the bathroom at night”. So many normal things that shouldn’t be a problem but they are!

Waking up from a bad dream, having it hang over your head all day. It can be traumatizing and hurtful. Triggered by normal life after an affair is what I am trying to find the answer to. Does anyone have any advice other than “get over it” or “it will fade as the years go by”? Ultimately that is not true and not even the closest to reality. What is true is that you are brokenhearted. How does one heal a broken heart?